ANGER MANAGEMENT FOR KIDS : HOW TO DEAL WITH EXPLOSIVE CHILDREN
The Picture:
God's angel on earth, kids are one of the happiest and sweetest avatars
around us. Their innocence, their smile, everything is nothing but the most
adorable gesture and it isn't any wonder these tiny wonders manage to uplift
our moods in the most troublesome times too.
Well , these angels have their
demonic phase too, which leaves parents and all adults around these monsters ,
surprised. It's difficult to even see these pretty little icons around us
become such intolerable rude personalities. Not just hurt, parents are also
scared about their kid's tommorow, given the kid's current behaviour.
The kid
gets angry at the tiniest of reasons and exerts a completely different level of
rudeness and arrogance not just around his playgroup kids but also against
adults. Their arrogance is incompetent and more importantly,questionable as to
where is this even coming from ? Ridiculed by the seriousness of the situation,
the parents rush to the doctors. Thats when the parents learn their kids are
probably a victim of aggresive behaviour. Eager to know what the treatment is,
they hurriedly ask the doctor what is to be done. This is what the doctor
suggests:
- COUNSELLING -
That's probably the only way out, of this horrible
childhood disaster. TElling the kid what's right and what's wrong and keeping
your maximum level of patience while doing so is the key to efficient
counselling. The kid needs to know that his words and his attitude is not right
for his age and his situation.
If there is anything that's not working according
to his will, there's still no need to develop this level of anger about it. THe
kid needs to be told that not just today, this is the sequelae of life, he/she
is always gonna be put in difficult situations which he/she may not really like
and entertain but still they need to find their way out, strong and bold.
THey
need to be made understood that aggression will only give some temporary relief
, but understanding and finding a calmer way out will teach one a lot of
things, including the happiness of being calm and laid back. Aggresion and
anger are bad human traits and although almost unfilterable, they render all us
humans weak and vulnerable. So even if the anger might reflect one's strength,
it is paradoxically one's weakness expressed in that anger blast. Not just
that, the kid needs to be told that he probably doesn't want to turn in to a
grumpy old man tommorow.
Explaining the whys and hows and whats of leading a
happy social life might make the child turn his anger orientation towards a
calm nature.